7 Ways to Say No

7 Ways to Say No

7 Ways to Say No

Don’t regret saying yes! George & Mary-Lynn share 7 ways to say no in this BIGG Success Show Podcast (Duration 5:24)

Have you ever said “yes” to something, than later wished you’d said “no?” People deal with this situation differently. Some will begrudgingly follow through with their promise. Others will try to avoid it altogether, and here’s the problem with that option…

We were talking with a friend who raises money for his organization. He told us, “It makes me so angry when a person looks me in the eye and says yes, then ignores me.”

Nothing like burning a bridge because you didn’t have the courage enough to say what you mean.

People do this all of the time. It’s easier to say yes. Who wants to sit across a person who looks disappointed by your rejection? But you do more harm than good by not being honest.

We’ve said in the past, when you commit to something new, you’re also saying no to something else in your life. Yes I’ll serve on this board, no I won’t get my exercise in regularly. Yes, I’ll donate to this cause, no I won’t have money to go out to eat. You get the point.

We’ve also stressed the importance of saying no to improve balance in your life. We naturally want to please people, but at what cost?
So let’s review how to say no.

The reasons for saying no boils down to these three things:
A. No…because it’s not appealing
B. No…because of money
C. No…because of time

Look, we know it’s hard, it’s something people struggle with, but go with your gut. The worst thing that could happen is that you change your mind and later say yes.

Our 7 ways to say no

Next time you find yourself tempted to say yes when you know you shouldn’t, try one of these:

1. No
2. No, not at this time
3. No, it’s not in the budget
4. No, I can’t commit to that right now
5. No, it’s just not a good fit
6. No, my schedule won’t allow for that
7. No, we have other priorities to get through before we can consider anything else
What have we missed? How do you say no?

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5 Reasons for Starting Up a Small Business

startup your small business for BIGG SuccessIt’s National Small Business Week here in the United States. It has us thinking about the state of small business.

According to an article on, small businesses failed at record rates from 2008 – 2010. Interestingly though, startup rates have been climbing since 2006. In fact, the number of new businesses hit highs not seen for a decade in 2009 and 2010.

It’s an interesting paradox. Why would so many people start a business when so many others are failing?

Many people get stuck. They want to start their own business. But the key word is “start” – they just can’t seem to do it.

You need a reason to start and it has to be one that will push you over the edge. So let’s look at five reasons for starting up a small business.

1) You’re driven by a dream

You know what you want to do. You’ve thought about it and thought about it. You’re tired of just thinking about it. You have to do it. If you vision is compelling enough, it will push you off the fence.

2) You want to take control

We live in a tumultuous world. Companies hire…Companies fire. Your fate may be in the hands of someone hundreds or thousands of miles away who doesn’t even know you. Your desire for control may help you make the leap.

3) You know you have so much more potential

You feel stagnant. You know you’re stuck. You’ve gone as far as you can with your company and in your industry. But it’s beyond that – it’s not just about career advancement. It’s also about personal growth. You know you could do so much more. It’s time to show the world your true potential.

4) You have a cause

A vision is one thing. A mission is another. You have a compelling “why”. You feel it with every ounce and inch of your being. It’s ingrained in your soul.

You have a cause and you’re afraid that if you don’t work for it, no one will. So you must start today to do the good work you were born to do.

5) You have “winner’s fear”

Losers are afraid to fail. So they can’t bring themselves to risk being embarrassed or hearing “I told you so.” On the other hand, winners are afraid of not trying. They just can’t accept not knowing if they could have done something more and been something greater. This winner’s fear drives them to move forward.

These are a just a few of the reasons for starting a business. What’s yours?

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10 Signs You Do NOT Need a Coach

Hiring a coach for BIGG SuccessBefore we get to the list, we’ll disclose that we coach entrepreneurs from idea to exit.

Having said that, we believe strongly in the value of coaching. We constantly work with one or more coaches at a time.

We developed this list based on our experiences on both sides of the relationship.

It’s a tongue-in-cheek look at who should not hire a coach. Let’s get to it…

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10) Your plan is to just wait for your ship to come in. You’re sure that – any day now – you’ll win the biggest lottery of all lotteries AND be named the sole heir of an unknown distant relative, who turns out to be the richest person in the history of the world.

9) You don’t think you deserve more than you already have. You happily accept your lot in life.

8) You are the first purely human being to achieve perfection. You can’t think of a single area of your life where there is any room for improvement.

7) You think that coaches are for wimps. You don’t care that a coach would help you reach BIGG success faster, you’re determined to go it alone.

6) Your confidence is so fragile that you can’t stand the thought of getting an objective opinion about your plans.

5) You can’t stand the thought of having an ally who cares so much about your success.

4) You’ve run out of dreams.

3) You have already single-handedly solved every problem in your corner of the world.

2) You have a teeny, tiny, little brain and there is no room left for even one more idea.

1) Your world is absolutely perfect. You live in a mansion and walk on streets of gold.

Have you worked with a coach?

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How to Deal with Rejection

rejection | BIGG SuccessRejection can be brutal. Some people take it better than others.

BIGG success is life on your own terms. But even if you’re living the BIGG life, things won’t always go your way.

You won’t reach the BIGG success you crave if you let rejection get you down.

So here are 4 tips to help you deal with rejection:

Stay confident

When you’re comfortable in your own skin, you won’t take rejection personally. You’ll accept it as part of your journey to BIGG success.

You’ll keep trying – one more thing, then one more. That’s what you have to do to succeed BIGG!

And don’t forget to take a confidence booster.

It’s a numbers game

What if you knew that every time you got a “No”, you were one step closer to “Yes”?

The most celebrated authors know this. So do actors and other entertainers.

It’s also true of job seekers. And sales people. And entrepreneurs.

See “No” as a positive – it means you’re one step closer to success!

Don’t take the rejection personally

It’s them. It’s not you.

That’s our fun way of saying it’s highly unlikely that they’re rejecting YOU.

We know this isn’t easy sometimes. It’s easy to listen to that little voice that tells you that it’s all about you.

Tell it to shut up! It’s really important to do so if you’re going to benefit from the rejection.

Yeah, that’s right…you can benefit from the rejection.

Try to find out why

If you take it personally, you won’t look for the reason underlying the rejection. Then you’ll get caught in a vicious circle.

You’ll be more likely to get rejected again because you’re not learning anything from each rejection.

You want to understand why it occurred so you can answer this question:

Is the reason for the rejection something you can control?

Maybe it’s the offer.

Or the presentation.

The design.

The wording.

Their circumstances.

Or any number of other things.

If you can’t find out why, or it’s something you can’t control, keep pushing.

If you do find out and it’s something you can control, celebrate the rejection!

You can make the necessary changes and try again. It’s how you find BIGG success!

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Successful Entrepreneurs are Voyeurs

voyeurWe talked recently about how unsuccessful people respond to mistakes. One thing successful entrepreneurs have in common in that they have made mistakes. A second thing they have in common is that they learned from them. A third is that they used this new knowledge to propel themselves forward.

However, there is a secret to reaching BIGG success faster. Successful entrepreneurs know it. Now you can too. Are you ready? The secret to reaching success faster is:

Make mistakes as a voyeur.

Watch others. Learn from their mistakes. Learn from their successes. Propel yourself forward.

Voyeuristic mistake making helps you reach BIGG success even faster. Are you watching?

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