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Your brain on social media

Can Social Media Literally Expand Your Mind?

Your brain on social media

There’s this teeny tiny part of your brain – it sits at the base – that apparently reveals a lot about your friends. It’s called the amygdala.

Researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston found that people with a bigger amygdala have more friends. This almond-shaped area is more than twice the size in people who are more social.

Perhaps the most striking part of this research was the difference between the two groups:

  • Less social people had less than 15 people with whom they had regular contact
  • People with a bigger amygdala had as many as 50 acquaintances

The researchers aren’t sure of the direction of the relationship. Does a bigger amygdala lead to more friends or do more friends lead to a bigger amygdala?

The lead researcher said that the brain is a “use it or lose it organ.” So she postulated that it expands with the number and the nature of your relationships. You can expand your mind…literally!

A simple way to have more friends

The thing we found most interesting was a BIGG tip about how to get more friends:

People with more friends tended to have more complex relationships. In other words, they mix business with pleasure!

And yet we’ve heard our whole lives – don’t mix business and pleasure. Wrong! You should mix the two.

It’s consistent with the BIGG idea behind BIGG success – synergy. We used to think it was essential to separate people into two camps – professional and personal.

However, many people miss a lot of opportunities by drawing this line between work and play. You can have better relationships with more people if you erase that line.

The relational power of social media

While the researchers didn’t look at online connections, we think this actually highlights one of the best things about social media. We get to see the whole person now.

We may meet someone in a business setting. But once we connect online, we can learn about their families, their hobbies, their interests and more.

Social media will help you keep track of what’s going on in the lives of more people. By watching status updates in your stream, you know what’s on their mind. You can bring it up when you see them in the real world.

It deepens the relationship instantly. The people in your life know you’re genuinely interested in them.

It helps create synergy which leads to more fun AND better results. Now that’s BIGG success.

Have you found that social media helps you keep up with more people?

Thanks so much for reading this summary of our show. If you found this helpful, would you share it with your friends?

Until we “meet” again, here’s to your BIGG success!

– George & Mary-Lynn

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Why Nice Guys Finish First

Nice Guys Finish First - Doug Sandler - BIGG SuccessThe author of Nice Guys Finish First, Doug Sandler shares his Nice Guy System and more in this BIGG Success Show podcast interview. Click PLAY to listen.

We had the great pleasure to speak with Doug Sandler (aka Mr. Nice Guy) on The BIGG Success Show today. Doug is an entrepreneur, speaker, Huffington Post writer, podcaster, and author of the Amazon best-selling book, Nice Guys Finish First.

Here’s what we talked about:

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How to Handle a Bad Critique

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A bad critique can put a BIGG Goal-Getters into a bad mood fast. We are perfectionists at heart. We strive to do our best every day and put thought and heart into the work that we do. It’s personal for us. It’s a reflection of our work ethic.

What’s worse than being told we’ve done something wrong – is being told about it with destructive criticism rather than constructive criticism.

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The Bad Critique

BIGG Goal-Getters agonize over having to critique someone. They write it out, practice saying it out loud, and try not to be too negative while getting a point across. So it stings quite a bit when you aren’t treated in the same manor.

We’ve all experienced the boss who just rips you a new one, or who makes one mistake seem like that’s the scope of your entire work history. It’s easy to feel defeated, and even worry that your standing in the company just got knocked down a few rungs.

The Best Way to React to a Bad Critique

You can’t let a bad critique keep you down. Here are some things you can do in response.

• Don’t respond when you’re upset! You’ll only say things you’ll regret. You’ve never burned bridges so don’t start now.

• If you believe the criticism is wrong, carefully and calmly debate why you think it is.

• Resist the urge to over please your critic. Fix the issue, let the appropriate person know, and move on.

• Don’t let your critic’s voice get into your head. It’ll just make you nervous and more likely to make another mistake.

• Try not to take it personally. You are you. Your work is your work. There is a separation.

• Consider the source. Not everyone cares as much as you to handle things the right way. Realize your critic has a lot to learn.

• Talk to someone you trust. Get out your frustration and say the things to them you’d never say in a professional setting.

Unfortunately, there are people who are put in leadership positions that have no idea how to be a true leader. You can’t control how this person will behave towards you in the future, so focus on what you can control…your reaction. It leads to BIGG Success! How about you? What suggestions do you have to offer about reacting to a bad critique? Leave a comment below.

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7 Ways to Say No

7 Ways to Say No

7 Ways to Say No

Don’t regret saying yes! George & Mary-Lynn share 7 ways to say no in this BIGG Success Show Podcast (Duration 5:24)

Have you ever said “yes” to something, than later wished you’d said “no?” People deal with this situation differently. Some will begrudgingly follow through with their promise. Others will try to avoid it altogether, and here’s the problem with that option…

We were talking with a friend who raises money for his organization. He told us, “It makes me so angry when a person looks me in the eye and says yes, then ignores me.”

Nothing like burning a bridge because you didn’t have the courage enough to say what you mean.

People do this all of the time. It’s easier to say yes. Who wants to sit across a person who looks disappointed by your rejection? But you do more harm than good by not being honest.

We’ve said in the past, when you commit to something new, you’re also saying no to something else in your life. Yes I’ll serve on this board, no I won’t get my exercise in regularly. Yes, I’ll donate to this cause, no I won’t have money to go out to eat. You get the point.

We’ve also stressed the importance of saying no to improve balance in your life. We naturally want to please people, but at what cost?
So let’s review how to say no.

The reasons for saying no boils down to these three things:
A. No…because it’s not appealing
B. No…because of money
C. No…because of time

Look, we know it’s hard, it’s something people struggle with, but go with your gut. The worst thing that could happen is that you change your mind and later say yes.

Our 7 ways to say no

Next time you find yourself tempted to say yes when you know you shouldn’t, try one of these:

1. No
2. No, not at this time
3. No, it’s not in the budget
4. No, I can’t commit to that right now
5. No, it’s just not a good fit
6. No, my schedule won’t allow for that
7. No, we have other priorities to get through before we can consider anything else
What have we missed? How do you say no?

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5 Tips for Couples in Business to Mix Business with Pleasure

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

The two of us are spending the whole day together, just like we do everyday – because we’re one of a growing number of couples in business.

If you’re one of us, you’ll probably relate to this – the first thing most people ask is:

“How do you do that?”

And then they add:

“My spouse and I could never do that.”

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BIGG success is life on your own terms. We’ve always loved spending as much time together as possible. Being a couple in business lets us max it out.

We get so excited when we meet other couples in business. And we’ve been so fortunate to meet some dynamic duos.

Like Danno Wolkoff and Laura Orkin. Their company, Envision Radio Networks, is the syndicator for our radio show, BIGG Success in a Minute.

We’d like to congratulate them for hitting a milestone this year – their business is ten years old. And we love how they’re celebrating it – they recently made a donation to Danno’s college radio station, WJPZ-FM in Syracuse. The facility is now called the Envision Radio Networks Broadcast Center.

It just goes to show you what couples in business can accomplish. So today, we thought we’d share five tips on how couples in business can mix business with pleasure.

These are mostly a reminder for ourselves. We hope they resonate with you too.

Be whole(istic) 

We spelled it wrong for a reason. We want to emphasize to keep your WHOLE life in mind with everything you do.

Your personal and professional worlds are more interdependent than they are for most people. That’s a good thing…as long as you consciously factor it in as you make plans and decisions.

You also need to keep your whole person in mind. It’s easy to lose yourself when you’re just half of a team.

This doesn’t need to be the case. In fact, quite the opposite.

You should build each other up for your mutual benefit. Couples in business can do this better than any other partners could.

Live with purpose on purpose  

It’s easy to just jump right in with both feet. It’s easy to just focus on what’s urgent. It’s easy to get stuck in the day-to-day.

But couples in business need to live intentionally.

Know your underlying purpose. What’s your WHY?

It should drive every decision – business and personal. Because you will feel the effects more than most people, given your choice to live and work together.

So live with purpose, on purpose.

Bump heads regularly  

We hasten to say that we’re not being literal here.

And no head butting, just head bumping!

By that we mean, check in with each other frequently. We tend to do this over the course of the day by taking quick breaks together.

In just a few minutes, we can catch each other up. We can also help each other with any challenges that have arisen.

It’s also so important to take time out to discuss the BIGG picture. We haven’t always been as good at this as we should. We talk a lot about the day-to-day. We know what we’re trying to accomplish. But we have to force ourselves to slow down and review our plans and progress.

There’s one more piece to bumping heads. You both need to be able to speak freely AND disagree. Disagreement is so important. And boy, do we have our disagreements. They’re good for both our business and our relationship.

If you both agree all the time, you’re probably missing opportunities at best or taking risks you shouldn’t at worst. So you have to lovingly disagree.

Shut up and down 

Know when to say when. Then shut up. Stop talking about the business.

Schedule time to shut down. Then stop working.

We struggle with this. We both love our work.

But we need couple time. So we try to set times and/or days when business is in the background.

We often go for a drive in the country and walk along a river. We also love mysteries.

For example, we have The Thin Man series DVRed right now. Now you know what we’re doing for Valentine’s Day!

Like a lot of entrepreneurs, we’re not good at following rules. So if one of us gets an epiphany while we’re in down mode, we may mention it. We may write it down.

But it’s important to not let it overtake your time together, no matter how BIGG the idea may be.

Bring outsiders in 

We can’t emphasize this one enough – get a coach. We find our coaches invaluable.

If you can’t afford to do that at this point, find other couples in business to network with.

A great way to do that is something we’re going to announce in just days. The best way to find out about it is to sign up for our newsletter.

So what’s the secret to a lasting relationship? A growing number of couples in business are finding it pays personally and professionally to mix business with pleasure. It leads to BIGG success!

Are you part of the growing number of couples in business?

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